Learning How To Be Professional

by Marian Schembari on March 17, 2010

Part of my charm and sparkling personality is, well, my lack thereof. Lately, I’ve decided to eff it and just be myself – this is a piece of what they like to call my “personal brand.”

During my job hunt I found that following the rules got me nowhere. The blog posts that get the most hits and comments are the ones where I spew my opinions like a vomiting frat boy at a kegger. The jobs I’ve gotten recently haven’t involved suits or resumes or professionalism. I pride myself in that ability to collect business left and right without “playing the game.”

But am I biting myself in the ass? Is my complete lack of professionalism actually bad manners?

Personal Branding 101

Earlier this month I wrote a guest post on Ryan Rancatore’s blog: Personal Branding 101. Here’s a little snippet:

Sometimes one person’s definition of “unprofessional” is another’s idea of innovation and cleverness and fun. So keep that in mind whenever you worry about censoring yourself.

Example: Today I met a woman who has the word “shit” on her business card (my kind of girl!). She also gets around 100 comments per blog post and has over 20,000 followers on Twitter.

Be yourself people, and while everyone else takes that cliche and proceeds to be what they think everyone else wants them to be, how about you actually be yourself – warts and all – and watch your personal brand take a new, exciting and more successful shape.

2118463691 4cf2e7c6a1 Learning How To Be ProfessionalI had a lot of fun writing that post, especially when I later found it inspired quite a bit of discussion. One commenter wrote: “Your speech should be a reflection of your intelligence and education. The ability to articulate and communicate effectively with others is hindered by profanity and use of slang, especially others belonging to another generation.”

Eh. I’d like to think my language is colorful. Colorful = not boring. I also 100% disagree with said commenter; her views are outdated and a little prejudiced given that everyone’s education (and therefore speech)  is different. Intelligence also does not necessarily equal education. That aside, I can’t ignore the fact that many people feel this way, and there are many jobs/clients I wont land because of how I “talk” on my blog and my general unprofessionalism.

But what the hell does that mean?

What I’m struggling with right now is the definition of professionalism. I’m not going to go running around insulting people, but I’m also not going to censor myself. I think my honesty and lack of bull shit is something I have going for me, but potential (high-end) clients might not see it that way. Should I change the way I act for the sake of professionalism? Or should I continue my distinctive – but authentic -  personal brand, hoping there are enough awesome clients out there who like that part of me and can keep me in Ramen and shoes?

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  • I strongly agree that intelligence also does not necessarily equal education. And for me, you don't have to change the way you act for the sake of professionalism. As long as you don't hurt anyone that's fine. This is a democratic country, free to do things without harming other lives. Just be yourself!
  • mavis
    i have never judged a person for their use or lack thereof, of "professional" language. i just happen to be one of those boring "older" people with a less colorful vocabulary. what i love best about everything you write is the totally fresh perspective that you bring to the table. that you are intelligent, visually gifted and blessed to be living in a time when employers are open to these qualities, is icing on the cake.
  • Aly
    Keep with what your doing! Plus it's your blog, if you ever get hired by a place that needs you to be more professional you can just tone it down at work. I was having a very similar discussion over at brazen (http://tinyurl.com/yk834x7) about this same issue with my blog. I would even like to let loose a little more sometimes but someone told Granny about the blog so... ;) love your blog by the way, will be checking back!
  • Agree about the option of toning it down -- I just hope people see that as an option. That being said, I've found over the past few days that clients are hiring me based on my specific style and I'm liking that ;-)

    Glad you like the blog, so happy you stopped by!
  • stanigator
    There is a tendency readership popularity when making honest comments or blog posts that may not be popular or controversial. I found this so far when I brought up a topic that's very seldomly discussed in the form of modern nomadic lifestyle. Continue picking a stance behind the topic that you support and I'm sure you will continue growing your readership.
  • Controversial = more readership. No doubt about that. Sometimes I consider whoring myself out just because I like the feedback ;-)
  • electronicsee
    Good article ! thanks for sharing !
  • bretsimmons
    Great thoughts, Marian. I too have a low tolerance for bullshit and assholes (two words I too use in public speeches and writings on my blog). I don't think the issue is one of professionalism. Professionalism to me is returning calls and e-mail in a prompt manner and other common courtesies. I think what you are talking about are just basic communication skills. If your audience does not hear what you are saying, then you have not communicated. So you have to know who you are speaking to, understand their expectations and filters, and be willing to adjust your style as necessary. Good communication would be like good intercourse, not masturbation. :)
  • Excellent metaphor, bro ;-)
  • Having a filter isn't necessarily a sign of giving in to The Man and becoming a faceless zombie. In fact it can show more intellect and maturity to not just spew anything that comes into your mind. before you protest, let me give you an example:

    Friend A has Friend B who is aggressively honest with her. Friend B says things like "wow, you really look fat in that dress." When Friend A confronted Friend B, Friend B's response was, "well do you want me to not be honest?" Now Friend A may very well have looked fat in that dress, but was Friend B's comment constructive or helpful? Could she perhaps have said something less hurtful that conveyed the same message? What was accomplished by her attitude besides expressing thoughtlessness?

    Now Marian, I've met you and you don't strike me as Friend B. Honesty is not always a virtue in and of itself. Remember "discretion is the better part of valor." That said, don't lose your personality. I'm sure you can find the balance. (And I swear a lot too but just like how I try not to do it in front of small chidlren, I also try to not do it in front of customers or bosses.)

    BTW, In The Guinea Pig Diaries by A. J. Jacobs he spends a month practicing Radical Honesty. It's an actual movmenet you might want to check out. Although I think it did give him an appreciation for white lies.
  • could you? If you needed to, could you suck all of your personality back in and spew only what other people wanted to hear? I doubt it. Or at least, not and be happy.

    I think that's what it comes down to. Is it really worth the watering down of yourself, to land a specific gig? So long as you do your work, get it in on time, and meet the details of the contract, that's what matters.

    My definition of professionalism is doing what you promise you'll do. If you say you'll meet a deadline, meet it. If they hire you, knowing you cuss and swear like a sailor, deliver the tone and personality they hired you for.

    If you're really worried about it, produce a couple of samples where you take a "more serious" tone, and distribute those when proposing work with clients you think will respond better to that approach - it'll show you CAN do that, even if it's not your specialty. But in my mind, the advantage to freelancing and not working for "the man" is being able to represent yourself as who you are instead of representing someone else's idea of who you should be.

    Just sayin'.
  • Not sure. But what a wonderful comment. You're the best!
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