6 Lessons From Bloggers Who’ve Inspired Me

by Marian Schembari on December 9, 2010

A month ago there was a big hoo-ha with some asshat blogger who made a list of the most influential folks in blogging. Long story short, there was drama and a promise I would write a better one.

But who am I – or you, Mister – to say someone is influential? How can I argue with who has influenced him? And who is he to argue with the bloggers who have influenced me?

Below I’ve compiled a list of my favorite blogs to illustrate how you can learn different things from a variety of people. That combining your interests can be beneficial and make for a more well-rounded and successful site.

1. Originality is the most important tool you’ve got

The Blogger: James Chartrand, Men with Pens

James is an incredible writer, great at his job, lets me guest post and always delivers valuable content. Unlike many of it’s kind, only two posts go up per week, but each is so chock full of information, while also going against the grain.

The Lesson: Head in the other direction.

Men with Pens will often take a popular topic and spin it. A recent post, Why You Shouldn’t Write Often, is a great look at the other side of the argument that the only way to write better is to write all the time. Because of MwP I Google relevant topics and essentially try to see the opposite of what everyone else says is right.

2. Brand yourself the right way

The Blogger: Erika Napoletano, Redhead Writing

I love me some sass and Erika isn’t afraid to call someone out and make her opinions heard. Writing about everything from social media to freelancing to dating, Redhead Writing is the most brilliant combination of personal and professional on the web.

The Lesson: Take one thing and make it yours.

With Erika’s enormously popular Bitch Slaps, she’s grown from another social media/personal blog to a site that people respect and enjoy. Erika proves you can provide value without listing those seven secrets that make me want to throttle a baby panda. By calling people out, highlighting her personality and naming that full package something awesome, she’s more of a brand than I’m sure she ever expected.

3. Be your ridiculously weird self

The Blogger: Jenny Lawson, The Bloggess.

Who doesn’t adore Jenny Lawson? She’s wacky and deep and I await with bated breath for each of her posts. She also responds to emails, follows back on Twitter and understands internet fame is fleeting. I literally Stumbled Upon her one night and was rolling on the floor with tears in my eyes after reading her Twilight post.

The Lesson: Be your goddamn self.

Jenny’s blog isn’t really about anything, really. That whole niche thing us bloggers dream about? Well, Jenny writes about her kid. And sometimes zombie porn. Because of this, she has a variety of freelance writing gigs, an upcoming memoir and features sponsors on her site that she writes in typical Jenny fashion. For example, a recent post features this “ad copy”:

4. We care what you had for breakfast

The Blogger: Kath Younger, Kath Eats Real Food

While it may not sound exciting, Kath posts meals and daily activities three times a day, every day. There’s something addictive and calming about experiencing every minutiae of her life. She has buckets of readers that prove you can talk about what you had for breakfast and be successful.

The Lesson: Little details matter.

While I won’t post daily or photograph my meals (own your niche, folks), I have started writing personal updates. Sometimes you ask for it, sometimes I find myself emailing Grandma and think, why am I not posting this? I always enjoy when bloggers reveal more about themselves, so why not write what I love to read? Plus, some of my more personal posts are also my most read.

5. It’s not just about your community

The Blogger: Molly Hoyne Mahar, Stratejoy

Molly is a life coach, specializing in the Quarterlife Crisis. Instead of preaching at readers and giving stale advice though, Molly features new bloggers every six months who are actually going through the Quarterlife Crisis.

The Lesson: Tap into the community of others and really engage your own.

Most of Molly’s writers are also bloggers, meaning she has the ability to tap into the already existing communities of those women. I found Molly through Nicole Antoinette, who was a Season 2 blogger over at Stratejoy. I started reading, then subscribed, then developed a relationship with Stratejoy of my own, eventually becoming part of Season 3. Now many of you read Stratejoy and many Stratejoy readers now read me. GENIUS.

6. Perfection is lame

The Bloggers: Sherry & John Petersik, Young House Love

YHL is an accessible (but also ridiculously popular) blog where the couple that runs it post about home improvement projects, their new family and an upcoming move. Sometimes their projects go wrong, sometimes they give readers brilliant tips.

The Lesson: Chronicle the journey. Don’t worry about being perfect.

YHL is the best example of why blogging is growing at an incredible rate. Imagine if you could talk to the editors of Better Homes & Gardens. Peek inside their homes. YHL tells us when they messed up. They post photos. They make us feel welcome in their home. Readers often email me and say, “Don’t post about your business mistakes” or “Stop asking readers for advice – it’s unprofessional.” Sherry and John have taught me that perfect is not always desirable. If you want a glossy social media blog, go elsewhere. Marianlibrarian.com is about the process. The journey of growing my business, not just being a business. And so far that tactic has worked enormously well.

This is obviously not an extensive list. Who are your favorite bloggers and how have they inspired you?

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  • http://twitter.com/ManOfLaBook Zohar Laor

    Excellent list Marian.

    I especially like the YHL blog since almost every weekend is taken up by some home improvement project (from simple painting projects to replacing the hot water heater).

    http://www.ManOfLaBook.com

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      That’s it, YHL is totally relatable for a lot of people. Not in a magazine-style perfection kind of way, but a real folks doing real things and learning from each other’s mistakes kind of way. I’m not a home improvement person – I don’t even really have a home – but I love their style (and their photos!) so much I just can’t stay away.

  • Anonymous

    Hey, this was really well done, Marian – it wasn’t just one of those list posts… you’ve shown you thought about who you liked to read and WHY. There are some new faces on this list that I want to go check out now – all it took was a little, “Here’s why I enjoy them.” I wish more bloggers would do this!

    (And thanks for including me – that was awesome of you.)

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      Thanks James! And you are so welcome. I know my blog wouldn’t be half as awesome if it weren’t for you and your mad skills :)

  • http://www.jargonwriter.com Melissa Breau

    I just spent WAY too long on YHL. I think I’ve found a new addiction. Thanks for the heads up lady.

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      Right? It’s really bad.

      • http://www.jargonwriter.com Melissa Breau

        Right. And since it seems like all my favorite bloggers all post on the same day… I probably spent half the day today just reading blog posts.

  • http://twitter.com/marianschembari/status/12876650706374656 Marian Schembari

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  • http://twitter.com/stephauteri/status/12878766460108800 stephauteri

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  • http://www.entrepreneurialdaddy.com Andy Fogarty

    I alway love stumbling across lists like this. I have no idea who the last 3 are, but now I HAVE to go check them out.

    Many thanks, Marian

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      Me too! Glad I could introduce you to a few new people. I think it’s other bloggers who introduced me to a lot of these guys so I’m really just passing the love along ;-)

  • http://twitter.com/manoflabook/status/12879594721906688 Zohar Laor

    Marian always has such interesting posts RT @MarianSchembari 6 Lessons From Bloggers Who've Inspired Me http://bit.ly/fgfn3f

  • Jen Gresham

    Great list! I can’t wait to head over to Jenny Lawson’s site. The ad copy alone tells me I’ll like it.

    (But it’s quite possible you’ll get bitch slapped for not including me on your list)

    (Ohhhh, Everyday Bright is going DARK…..)

    (I knew you wanted drama. It’s a gift. Mwah!)

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      Oh man, I apologize in advance for the hours you will spend on Jenny’s site. She’s ridiculously brilliant. Can’t wait til her book comes out!

  • http://twitter.com/jengresham/status/12880177654661122 Jennifer Gresham

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  • http://twitter.com/emmacunningham/status/12894111682007040 Emma Cunningham

    Learn from top-notch bloggers! http://ow.ly/3mxBN

  • P.S. Jones

    Love this list, Marian. I think that the common thread in all of them is that they found their sweet spot. They may have tried on other personas and methods but they found something uniquely their own. Dogs, children and blog readers have a sixth sense about people trying to be something they’re not. And none of them want anything to do with a faker.

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      EXACTLY. At the end of the day, I think that’s what really makes a blogger. Not a “niche” in traditional terms, but exactly what you said – a “sweet spot.” I’m digging it.

  • http://eemusings.wordpress.com/ eemusings

    I love that I know of all these blogs. Does that make me awesome?

    I probably have to pay kudos to Fabulously Broke, who was one of the first to pique my interest in a) blogging and b) personal finance.

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      You are totally awesome. Great minds must think alike!

      And thanks for the suggestion. Hadn’t heard of it but now I’ll check it out!

  • http://twitter.com/marianschembari/status/12973762949414913 Marian Schembari

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  • http://twitter.com/me_randomchick/status/12978421114081280 Dana Leipold

    She inspires me…look who inspires her! RT @MarianSchembari: 6 Lessons From Bloggers Who've Inspired Me http://bit.ly/hTEDYJ

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  • http://smallhandsbigideas.com/ Grace Boyle

    What a great roundup, love it! And I like how you shared their lessons.

  • http://www.redheadwriting.com The Redhead

    Marian – what do I say? Thanks for the mention (not to mention cropping my pic so my boobs look GREAT!). Across this weird place called the interwebz, people find others influential for a variety of reasons. Some inspire us on the side of what NOT to do. Others give us hope that what we’re doing is the right thing. My friend Merredith says it best: animals don’t get run over on the side of the road. They get run over in the middle. Get your ass out of the middle – you’re gonna get killed.

    Have a fabulous remainder of 2010 and grab 2011 by the short ones. Do the Kiwis even KNOW what they’re in for?

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      There is no doubt in my mind that your boobs *always* look great.

      As for the Kiwis – I should hope not. I’m trying “the element of surprise” angle ;-)

  • http://andynathan.net Andy Nathan

    Awesome collection of blogs. I was almost crying reading about the Twighlight post and enjoyed the Bitch Slap as well!

  • http://twitter.com/marianschembari/status/13267973175246848 Marian Schembari

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  • http://twitter.com/Yakezie The Yakezie

    No male bloggers? James is a woman right? I think I herd an interview about her once.

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      I know, it’s weird right?! I do read quite a few male bloggers, but besides John of YHL, none have really influenced the way I run my site. And yes, James is a woman :)

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  • http://twitter.com/ec_sheedy/status/14173841832022016 EC Sheedy

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  • http://www.FabulouslyBroke.com FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com

    I say my whole blogroll is inspirational. I guess I like a little bit of everything. It depends on what topic you’re covering: money, minimalism, style or general life stuff. :) I can give at least 10 bloggers each topic!

    Adding you to my RSS Feed. I foresee a solid BFF status in the future ;)

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      I’m with you – I read everything from cooking to business to photography blogs.

      And YAY for new friends!!

  • http://twitter.com/lisacron/status/15494073813045248 Lisa Cron

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