My Quarter Century Manifesto

by Marian Schembari on May 4, 2012

Today I turn 25.

Last year I compiled a list of things I learned over each year I’d been alive. If I did that this year you could have a book. The things I’ve learned during my 25th year are beyond a post’s capabilities. So instead I present you with my manifesto. My mission statement. A compilation of the things I’ve learned that I want to live by.

Experience stillness every day. Take a loud, deep breath and feel utter silence and pleasure with your own company. Make time to be alone. You can’t hear yourself think or make your own decisions if you’re constantly listening to other people’s. (Plus, you’re sort of fun to hang out with.)

Have a coffee, eat chocolate when the craving hits and drink wine without stressing about the size your ass.

Be receptive. Don’t cross your arms, don’t get defensive, don’t argue. You don’t have to take every piece of advice you receive, but if your ego is too big you don’t give yourself room to grow. That said, trust yourself enough to know what’s best for you and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. You can be receptive without being a doormat.

Travel the world. See everything you can possibly see and make friends there. Experience the people and the sights and the food and culture and make the whole wide world filled with many of your homes.

Say yes to everything at least once. Then, if you don’t like it, feel 100% okay with saying “no” for the second go-round.

Don’t give a shit if people like your taste in music/books/movies. People only judge because they have a copy of Twilight stashed away somewhere.

Stop spending time with people who don’t help you grow, laugh and smile, while making you feel supported, cherished, inspired and respected. Everyone else – while I’m sure they’re lovely – are a waste of your time.

Live boldly.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/davevandewalle Dave Van de Walle

    Happy Birthday!

    Okay, I would say you’ve got your head screwed on pretty straight for someone in their mid-20s. Congrats on that.

    The world will only get weirder in the years to come. So rock on.

    Cheers!

  • http://twitter.com/RebeccaAWatson Rebecca A. Watson

    Yay! Happy birthday :) May it be the best year on this awesome rock you’ve had so far!

  • http://joannefaith.com/ Joanne Faith

    I like this! Happy birthday :)

  • http://twitter.com/marianschembari/status/198520836343349250 Marian Schembari

    My Quarter Century Manifesto http://t.co/kyTLloSN

  • Andrew Woods

    Lol it would be hard work to get me to say yes to line dancing.

  • http://twitter.com/dejakester/status/198575033495465984 Jake Beckman

    My Quarter Century Manifesto http://t.co/kyTLloSN

  • http://thepalatepeacemaker.com/ Desi@ThePalatePeacemaker

    I love you, Muffin.  Happy Birthday. :)

  • http://www.mycustardpie.com/ MyCustardPie

    So wise, for so young (almost half my age!).  Happy birthday.

  • Elena

    Wish you many happy birthdays and many fulfilling years in between!  And thank you for sharing your manifesto. I am going to apply it too.

  • http://beyondthedefaults.com/ Abby Butts

    Happy Birthday and love the manifesto!  ”Live Boldly” sums it up nicely and is easy to remember and repeat.  My goal for this year has been to talk less and listen more.  Its made a difference in how I communicate and how I’m perceived at work and at home.

  • http://twitter.com/NataliaSylv Natalia Sylvester

    Happy birthday, Marian! I totally forgot how young you are (I talk like I’m that much older even though I’m only 2 years ahead of you, but you know what I mean). I love this, especially the part about making the world a place filled with many of your homes. Hope 26 is just as fulfilling :)

  • http://twitter.com/nataliasylv/status/199624791769092096 Natalia Sylvester

    "Make the whole wide world filled with many of your homes," — @marianschembari's quarter century manifesto: http://t.co/SxWdkykM

  • http://www.sweeneysays.com Sweeney

    This is beautiful. Happy birthday! I hope 26 is filled with many new remarkable experiences and lessons.

  • http://www.tischen.com/ams07aa Ashley

    Could I hire you to manage my job hunt? Seriously, you’re awesome. Enjoying your blog very much!

    And happy belated birthday!

    • http://marianlibrarian.com Marian Schembari

      Haha, *blush*. You’re such a sweetie, thank you!

  • http://sylverblaque.wordpress.com/ Sylver Blaque

    This is just beautiful…inspirational, uplifting, freeing…the list goes on!

  • Laurie

    Love this, Marian. Happy birthday to you, your books, music, movies, and the half-eaten bar of chocolate you’re about to finish. Have I told you lately you’re a superstar?

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