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Truth or Dare Week 3
DARE: ASK SOMEONE OUT ON A FRIEND DATE
I’ve said this a million times, but making friends is hard. Even if you feel like you have all the friends you could possible need (which I don’t believe for a second), falling back on the same people over and over often limits our growth and general life enjoyment. Which is why this week your dare is to reach out to someone you met, liked, but never saw again. Ask them out. Be the initiator.
Last month I heard a woman speaking English at my local coffee shop. Because of this alone, I aggressively friended her. For over an hour we talked across our tables, exchanging numbers before I left. I have not seen her since.
She was smart, funny and had a lot of the same frustrations with Düsseldorf, but I haven’t made an effort to follow up (which is crazy since I complain so much about how long it takes to build community, yet I do very little to encourage its growth).
Today that changes.
At the risk of coming on too strong, I am not only going to text her as soon as I get back from my holiday break, but I am also clearly writing about her on my blog which is basically like talking about marriage and kids on a first date. But whatever. I’m scared and I’m going to do it anyway.
And so are you, right? Tell me about it in the comments.
TRUTH: WHAT DO YOU GIVE ZERO SHITS ABOUT?
What do you not care about that you think you should? Something you see people working their asses off to accomplish that you just can’t be fucked putting any effort into?
For me, it’s always been my day job.
It’s not like I get complaints about performance, but I’ve also never gotten a proper raise or promotion.
Because I just can’t get myself jazzed about corporate marketing campaigns.
Working in start-ups is like being surrounded by rabid sports fans. My colleagues live and breath their work, often staying in the office until 9 or 10. I’m the one packed up and out the door by 4:59.
I’ve never truly cared about an employer’s long-term growth. If I’m going to force myself to burn out, it’s going to be in support of my dreams, no someone else’s. And even then, it takes a lot to get me to work on anything for hours at a time. I need breaks! Diversity! Time to do nothing!
I used to sit in meetings mentally rolling my eyes while coworkers argued about button color and quarterly KPIs. A voice in my head would chant: “Nobody cares nobody cares nobody cares nobody cares.”
It’s not like I’ve had a slew of horrible jobs. I’ve worked at interesting companies with lovely people and great pay, but 99% of the time I felt like a fraud. I now wonder if any of my coworkers were faking it too.
Other things I don’t really care about:
- World news. When I do read the paper I get so depressed I can’t function. I can never keep up, so I tune it out. I worry this makes me a horrible person.
- Fashion. I care about looking nice and love to shop, but fashion rules seem boring and arbitrary so I ignore them and just buy what’s in stores and looks good.
- Language etiquette. Self explanatory.
- Career advancement. Clearly. I really just want to keep doing work that feels good and make progress towards my own goals.
Your turn: What are you currently giving zero shits about? And who’s going to ask a friend on a date this week?