First time here? Read this post to get caught up on this month’s launch party and why both truthing and daring is so powerful.
Truth and Dare Week 4
Today is the last day of our Truth or Dare launch party. It’s a big one. An important one. If you haven’t participated yet, I urge this to be the week you do so.
We’re combining both truth and dare, because it’s daring to tell the truth.
Dare: Share the truth behind a filtered photo
Obviously, I love sharing my life and bearing my soul online. I also love filters and pretty little vignettes where, either through words or images, I can carefully select the pieces of my day that have that perfect glow.
But obviously there’s a danger in thinking the world is always like that. No one – including that fashion blogger you’re obsessed with – have it all figured out. Everyone’s updates are covered with gloss.
Thankfully, this honesty-behind-the-filter phenomenon is seeping into the internet:
- The makeup artist who posted a real hair day.
- The Instagram model who shared the truth behind her photos.
- The photographer who expanded the edges of a typical Instagram photo.
But you don’t need to be internet famous for your truth to have impact.
Which is why your dare is to share a photo where things look one way, but in reality are another.
Truth: What’s behind the filter?
This is Elliot and I on our first weekend living in Europe. We took a bus to the Netherlands – just because we could – and spent the night at a little hotel. We walked the streets, ate the food, and napped in the local park. This photo was taken the next morning as we wandered the empty canals. It was beautiful and quiet and I was amazed that we could had just taken a quick bus trip and found ourselves in a completely different country.
Afterwards, I received emails from friends with some version of this message: “I’m so jealous of your adventures!” “You must be having so much fun!” And while I feel grateful, I also feel overwhelmed. The idea that we can just up and leave every weekend to a new country may look adventurous and brave, but it can always be exhausting. I so want to be the kind of woman I was at 18 – chatting up strangers and stumbling across local haunts – but I’m don’t think I’m her anymore.
The truth behind this photo is this: moving to Germany was a mistake. I pushed hard to keep living the life I thought made me special and interesting, but what I really want is a house in the woods and a community to call my own. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of good will come out of this adventure, but I think it will be my last. Because my deep dark scary truth is that I’m a quiet homebody, I love living in America and I desperately want a town where I can settle down.
It may sound simple (and that’s my fear: that I am completely average), but it took me ten years to admit this to myself, never mind the world.
What’s the truth behind your filter?
Share a photo (or link to a photo) in the comments and tell us about what’s really going on.
Guess what? We made it a whole month of truthing and daring! I wasn’t confident that anyone would participate, but I was blown away by the number and depth of comments shared. Thank you for helping me celebrate my online transition with your brave dares and your hilarious, honest, heartbreaking truths.
This is why we’re here.