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I’m Marian Schembari—writer of essays, practicer of fiction and small business owner. Marian Librarian is my place to talk about our feelings: the honest, sometimes-boring, sometimes-inspiring truth that comes from curling up on the couch with your best friends.
If you're new, this page is for you. If you're tired of inspirational quotes superimposed over photos of waterfalls and Buzzfeed-style headlines, this blog is for you. If you crave real-world stories that don't sugar coat the hard and happy details, this blog is for you.
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The origin story
Though I didn’t say it aloud, publishing appealed to me because I’d always dreamed of being a writer. The job I got at a PR firm helping authors publicize themselves wasn’t quite what I had in mind, but having a job at all during the recession was a relief.
As it turned out, the blog outlasted the job. It came with me from publishing to the start-up world and beyond, and from England to New Zealand to San Francisco to Germany. Online marketing made intuitive sense to me, and this blog made it fun to share what I’d learned and created, and to hear from other people exploring the then-Wild West of digital communication.
Along the way, I wrote about travel and friendships and feelings and careers. And while technically the blog was still about social media, sharing and hearing these stories quickly became my favorite part. Storytelling was what made the internet—and buzzwords like “connections” and “engagement”—make sense. More than that, it’s what made me want to get up in the morning.
What to expect
This is a place for anyone who’s ever heard “Be the authentic you!” or “Let’s dive deep and get juicy!” and thought great, Oprah, but what the hell does that mean?
To Generalize is to be an Idiot; To Particularize is the alone distinction of Merit."
The particulars of our stories—of our lives—are what make them worth living and learning from. Who wants to read an inspirational quote like “Be vulnerable and joyful,” when you could hear about a real person who, say, rereads the opening chapter of the first Harry Potter book when she’s stressed, or likes to throw dance parties with her three-year-old nephew, who’s obsessed with Spice World choreography?
In my near-decade of blogging, here’s what I learned: Sharing my stories has saved my sanity and curiosity; soothed my loneliness and indecision. And when I’m very lucky, it conjures those magical words: “Oh my God, me too.”
It’s a simple, powerful phrase. And it’s the secret to the power of stories. Finding those intersections, those magical, fertile places where your story overlaps with mine? That’s what this here blog is all about. Let’s make it happen together.
Where to go from here
I've pulled together curated lists of my favorite stories below. Click around, comment, share, write me an email or just digest on your own. My door is open.