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2 Books You Need to Buy Right Now

by Marian Schembari on April 26, 2011

I don’t normally “do” book reviews, but when I’m so obsessed with something that I need to shout it from the rooftops, it makes sense to shout it from my blogging rooftop, no?

Now, two books. Both about getting what you want.

I know, I know, just read on…

To Whom It May Concern

First off, we have the lovely Jenny Foss who I featured on the blog earlier this month. Jenny is an uber genius. Since moving to New Zealand I’ve been sort of kind of looking for a full-time job. Before Jenny, my resume was crap. My experience was great, but I’d never been particularly good at bragging about said experience. So I sent my resume to Jenny and she whipped that bad boy into shape. And now? Every. Single. Job. I apply for calls me in for an interview. Without fail. It’s insane. That’s never happened to me before! I know it’s because Jenny’s mad skills find a way of making you and your mad skills look irresistible.

I’ve also been lucky enough to read (“cover” to “cover”) the ebook she recently launched. To Whom It May Concern has been a long time coming – it’s all about the new job search and how things like social media and networking can help you land the career you want. Because submitting resumes to random job postings just doesn’t work anymore.

Thankfully, for all those confused job seekers out there, this book is so worth the money it’s not even funny. This woman knows what she’s talking about and has a ridiculous amount of results in her back pocket to prove it.

Life After College

If you read blogs, you’ve heard of yet another Jenny – Jenny Blake. Blogger, Google employee, new author and all-around lovely, lovely person. When I heard she was publishing a book stemmed from her blog, I couldn’t be happier. This girl HAS IT. And the book, Life After College? Brilliant as expected.

Here’s the blurb:

In Life After College Twitter meets What Color is Your Parachute for 20-somethings. Written by popular blogger and life coach Jenny Blake, Life After College provides tips, inspirational quotes and coaching exercises for every area of life including: Work, Money, Home, Organization, Friends & Family, Dating & Relationships, Health, Fun & Relaxation, and Personal Growth. The book is like having a portable life coach by your side — it is a “one stop shop” that is part journal, part motivator, and part guidebook. Life After College is a powerful life-planning tool that no twenty-something will want to be without!

The reason I loved this book so much is because Jenny isn’t preachy AND she doesn’t give the same ole advice. She talks about her personal experiences, gives it to us straight and provides thought-provoking questions for journaling and thinking on. Honestly, I haven’t thought this much about my own life after college since graduation. And I couldn’t be happier I read this book. The past month has been filled with a little self discovery thanks to Jenny’s amazing prompts and cheerful (without being obnoxious) attitude. So in celebration of both fantastic books about life, careers and getting what you want, I have a journal prompt for you that I want EVERYONE to answer in the comments section:

What are two steps you can take right now toward discovering or pursuing your passion, even if you have a full-time job?

UPDATE: Jenny Foss has agreed to give me a discount code! Meaning if you buy To Whom it May Concern before Tuesday, May 3 at 11:59pm and use the code MARIAN50, you can get the book for 50% off. How do you like THEM apples? Here’s the link again.

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How I Use Facebook

by Marian Schembari on February 15, 2011

For a social media consultant, I’m pretty quiet about Facebook. The only posts I’ve written about the site are highly emotional, or revolve around my using Facebook ads to land a job two years ago.

The reason I rarely write about it is mostly because I try to relate everything back to personal experiences, stories and tips I’ve picked up along the way. I still offer services for Facebook and have built quite a few pages myself, but it’s one place online where I’m strictly anti-business.

Americans my age experienced Facebook when it was just a place for registered college students to connect. It’s how I met people before actually heading to Davidson freshman year. It’s where my future roommate and I fell in roommate love before ever meeting.

When they opened up Facebook to nonstudents (and then the world), it felt like we had lost something. Like the “exclusive” community of college students who actually posted their interests and didn’t have to link to “pages” was gone.

Now it’s a marketing tool. Now I’m connected to my mom and I had to take down that dirty application off my profile. Now listing “my dog” as an interest links to nothing.

I’m not anti-Facebook. There are some fabulous companies doing incredible things. It’s a wealth of information and you can still connect with your college buddies and post photos of that-night-you-don’t-want-anyone-to-know-about-but-secretly-do-cuz-you-look-sort-of-hot.

Why there isn’t a Marian Librarian page

Because my profile is private, you’d think I’d have a page for Marian Librarian. It’s not that it isn’t in the cards, I just don’t feel like updating one more social media profile. Plus, I don’t have anything new to offer you at the moment. Right now, the majority of the information I provide is on the blog. I send out a weekly newsletter answering your social media questions, my work history is on LinkedIn and my chit chats are on Twitter. I don’t have time to deal with another profile while also monitoring my client’s online presence. A girl needs her limits.

To be honest, it’s nice having one place that’s not work related. The only people I add on Facebook are either friends I’ve met in real-life or readers who’s names I recognize and am comfortable sharing my personal information with.

As you can see, I do share blog posts and promote myself on Facebook. I don’t have an absurd amount of friends but I get a decent amount of blog traffic through the profile and I think it’s just because I’m sharing the info with “real” friends and they click out of support and/or curiosity. Since I’d be sharing the same info just on a page and inviting my friends and people who already read my blog anyway – what’s the point?

It’s such a relief logging on and not NEEDING to say anything. I can find out what my college roommate is up to or photo stalk that girl I totally wanted to be in high school. I can keep an eye on my brothers even though they’re on the other side of the world. I don’t need to impress or be useful or make sure to post every day. I can log on when I want and say what I want. It’s the bare bones of what social media is all about, really.

How do you use Facebook? And do you have any questions for me? I promise to write about it more if I have a better idea of the kind information you want!

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So tell me. How can I help YOU?

by Marian Schembari on March 31, 2010

I think I’m a little bit of a narcissist. Maybe everyone with a blog is. But as much as I enjoy writing about my life and having comments that make me feel like the popular kid I never was in high school, I want this blog to be something more. Something where I can share things and give advice that are relevant to you, my readers.

The whole point of blogging (besides narcissism) is to provide niche content. The way we receive news is drastically changing, and like the sections of a newspaper, most of us don’t even read everything about everything. Unlike the newspaper, we no longer casually scan those sections as we flip by. Instead, we go directly to the content via URL.

Like design? Read design blogs and craft sites and online magazines targeted to your interests. Trying to build your business? Join community forums to get advice and read tips from others who have done the same. When I first graduated Davidson I read every job hunt/career advice/life after college blog out there. As a freelancer I now read all sorts of sites targeting people like me. Like this and this and this.

My newist existential crisis is: What can I contribute? How can my blog become one of those sites people bookmark and go to for the best advice on ___________?

That’s where I get stuck and as usual, I take my quandary to you folks.

So tell me. How can I help you?

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Teaching at Barnard: How to get a job using social media

by Marian Schembari on January 18, 2010

On the 2nd of February I will be teaching my very first workshop in Barnard’s career services department. The subject? Using social media as a job hunting tool (I know, right? Apparently I need a hobby).  You all kind of know how I feel about “traditional” job search methods, and as I’ve mentioned before, schools don’t really do the best job of teaching us anything besides the basics. So I reached out to various colleges and universities in New York (Columbia, Sarah Lawrence, Hofstra, Barnard, etc etc) saying I was available to show soon-to-be-graduates the essential social media  tools like LinkedIn, Twitter and Facebook as part of their job search.

Looking for work today is drastically different than it was a year ago. Yesterday, even. Here’s a very brief outline of what I will be teaching:

  • How to create an attractive and effective online resume
  • The three big social media platforms
  • The importance of personal branding and how to create a strong web presence

Through my research I’ve found that some schools have actually started programs that are keeping their students on top of their game (kind of). Gonzaga University hosted an event in October called: “Social Media: Friend or Foe“, but other than that I’ve had a hard time finding anyone even close to venturing into arena. Meaning part of me thinks I’m an utter genius for thinking of this brilliant way to earn some extra cash. Until, of course, I realize I’ve been doing my research wrong and every school has already hopped on the bandwagon. In the meantime…

It would be great to get some input before my initial presentation. What do you guys think would be useful? Anything you wish you knew before the ole job hunt? Anything you still want to know? You’re the best!

And this kind of goes without sayin,g but if you’re a school and would like me to speak (or know of a school, or went to school, or know a guy that goes to school)… shoot me an email or whatnot.

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Colleges have a tendency to harp on about the world of work and the basics we absolutely-positively-no-excuses-allowed must learn. But they did get some things right. Operative word: some.

What college teaches:

1. How to use the alumni network. I went to Davidson College, a liberal arts school in the South with about 1,600 students, meaning Davidson grads bond together like a cult. Ex: my parents were on vacation in Canada, ran into a woman wearing a Davidson sweatshirt and became fast friends. That being said, alums from universities around the country form a bond and, coupled with the fact that people love to mentor, means you can use and abuse the network like a cheap whore.

Davidson College, my alma mater

2. Job Fairs. The one time I did go to one of these events I made a great connection and a wonderful friend. These events are so effective because you’re put in touch with HR people at companies where you may want to work, which is uncommon outside the bubble of college. Graduated? Call your alma mater  and ask for their contacts then shoot the reps an email saying you went to College X and you’d love to ask them a few questions.

3. Concentration. Despite the fact that many of us had  classes only a few hours a day, we had a lot of work  outside of class. I spent the last 4 months at Davidson sitting at a desk writing my thesis,  meaning a 9 to 5 was starting to look pretty sweet. The enormous pile of work, along with balancing a social life, extracurriculars and copious amounts of alcohol, teaches students time management, organization and how to work for ourselves. Regardless of the irrelevance of most of my classes, it was learning how to learn that was as useful as any job.

4. The basics. Regardless of the extra steps we take to land work, it’s always important to dress appropriately for an interview, have a good working resume, know how to write a cover letter and understand the necessity for a timely thank-you note.

5. Follow the rules. Both campus career centers and day-to-day classes give us strict guidelines that dictate assignments. When you’re a student, this is great and in the real world this comes in handy as candidates who try and bypass the system are seen as annoying and “above it all”. Regardless of what additional steps you take to land a job, it’s always a good – and polite – idea to do the bare minimum first. It’s what comes later that gets us stuck…


What college doesn’t teach:

1. Personal branding. Career centers are old pros at giving workshops on everything from interview attire to  appropriate resume layout. While these workshops are helpful, they really only provide you with a foundation. What they don’t teach is how to stand out from the crowd. What if you don’t have a ton of experience? This is where social media and networking really come in handy.

2. Build an effective network. True, many schools have great alumni networks, but that’s not the only way to make friends in your field. Notice I said “friends” and not “contacts”. A friend/contact of mine gave me some kick ass advice about how to meet and really connect with people professionally – find out what you can do for them rather than how they can boost your career. I’m going to post later on the best ways to build your network. For now though, keep in mind that universities generally suck at this.

3. You don’t have to take a real job. Seriously. If it’s one thing that pissed me off about Davidson, it’s that we were all expected to take Big Important Jobs in finance or law or medicine. Maybe it’ was the plethora of rich white kids, but there was little to no variation in the school’s expectations. Many kids had consulting or banking jobs before graduation but honestly, the thought of taking something like that make me want to light myself on fire. I can only speak from the perspective of a Davidson grad, and there might be plenty of other schools with more creative opportunities, but just keep your eyes peeled for those not-so-cubicle opportunities.

4. GPA doesn’t matter. I was NEVER – not once – asked for my grades when looking for work. Want to know why? Because no one gives a crap. Your abilities to write a philosophy paper have zero bearing on your ability to rock your job. Unless you’re a doctor/lawyer/financial consultant, big companies don’t ask. So stop stressing.

5. Don’t always follow the rules. Send your thank you notes. Firmly shake hands. Wear a tie. But the bare minimum will usually cost you the job. Go the extra mile and don’t just network, make friends. Make your resume snazzy (not pink or scented, mind you). I use quotes on mine – the idea came from Guerrilla Marketing for Job Hunters and they have great resume resources online. I also suggest getting business cards.

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